|Botanical Print of Dead Roots|
Love begins on a relational level; this has been true for humans since the very beginning when God created Adam and Eve. There must be a person to be loved in order for love to exist. The nature of God, the source of love, is relational, (the three persons of the Trinity).
Unlike human love, marred by the wounds of sin, God's love is perfect and comes without conditions and limits, even the limits of time. God does not begin loving us when we are created in time - He loved and chose us before the world began. Mother Angelica said, “God saw all the possible human beings He might have created throughout the history of the world. Out of possible billions of human beings that might have existed in God's mind—His Eye rested on each one of us and then stopped ... and said, ‘You shall be.’”
Not everyone can bring themselves to believe in such a God and such a love and we can see evidence of this in the issue of abortion.
Both sides truly do not understand where the other side is coming from. It baffles a pro-choice person to think that a woman should not be able to control what goes on inside her womb and it confounds a pro-life person to think that a mother would kill her child.
At the root of this difference in opinion between a person who is pro-choice and a person who is pro-life is a differing view of identity. For the pro-choice person, identity and existence is something that is within the bounds of time and human logic. We can choose when and if a person begins to exist or not, that is our right. For the pro-life person, when God joins a sperm with an egg, He is not choosing at that moment to create a person, He already created that person outside of time before the beginning of the Universe.
If the pro-life premise of identity is correct, this means that abortion doesn’t just exterminate countless people, it also tears apart the people who are alive, keeping them from loving each other fully. If the pro-lifers are right, then abortion tears love out at its root.
Instead of God's loving plan being at the root of a parent's love for a child, the unconditional love is uprooted and replaced with the chaos of chance. "I love you because you happen to be the child who won the abortion lottery (or the sperm race)." A girlfriend says to a boyfriend, "I love you honey but if your mother had chosen to abort you then I would hypothetically have supported her choice." A sibling to another sibling, "You're so wonderful, I love you so much - but if Mom had chosen to stop at one child, I would have supported her choice."
Abortion uproots love, the source of our identity, and plants the seed of chaos and anxiety in our hearts. Chaos - because we are denying that our existence is planned and ordered in the mind of God. Anxiety - because if we think we can control whether we exist or not, then everything in the world must be under our control. And anxiety because our existence and self-identity becomes something random, cutting us from the root of God's love.
Yet, God, in His love and wisdom, gives us the power to make these destructive choices because this is the only way He can give us the power to choose love freely.
God, may we be forces of life in a culture obsessed with death and control.
God, may we be forces for peace in a world full of anxiety.
God, may we be forces of love in a culture that longs for love.